A reader recently pointed me to some "rules for a happier life" that
various folks have posted in various forms. Here's my take on those
rules as they apply to the workplace:

1. Don't compare yourself to others.

Everybody, and I mean everybody, starts out in a different place and
is headed on their own journey. You have NO idea where someone else's
journey might lead them, so drawing comparisons is a complete waste of
time.

2. Never obsess over things you cannot control.

While it's often important to know about other things–like the
economy, the markets that you sell to, the actions that others might
take, your focus should remain on what you actually control, which is 1)
your own thoughts and 2) your own actions.

3. Know and keep your personal limits and boundaries.

While your job might sometimes seem like the most important thing in
your world, you're killing a part of yourself if you let work situations
push you into places that violate your privacy and your integrity.

4. Don't over commit yourself or your team.

It's great to be enthusiastic and willing to go the "extra mile," but
making promises that you (or your team) can't reasonably keep is simply
a way to create failure and disappointment.

5. Remember you get the same amount of time every day as everyone else.

You may feel you're short on time and that you need more of it, but
the simple truth is that when the day started, you got your fair share:
24 hours. Nobody got any more than you did, so stop complaining.

6. Don't take yourself so seriously; nobody else does.

The ability to laugh at your foibles not only makes you happier as a
person, it makes you more powerful, more influential and more attractive
to others. If you can't laugh at yourself, everyone else will be
laughing behind your back.

7. Daydream more rather than less.

The idea that daydreaming and working are mutually exclusive belongs
back in the 20th century. It's when you let your thoughts wander that
you're more likely to have the insights that will make you both unique
and more competitive.

8. Don't bother with hate; it's not worth the effort.

Hate is an emotional parasite that eats away at your energy and
health. If something is wrong with the world and you can change it, take
action. If you can't take action, you're better off to forgive and
forget.

9. Make peace with your past lest it create your future.

Focusing on past mistakes or wrongs inflicted on you is exactly like
driving a car while looking in the rear view mirror. You'll keep heading
in the same direction until you collide with something solid.

10. Don't try to "win" every argument.

Some battles aren't worth fighting, and many people are easier to
handle when they think they've won the argument. What's important isn't
"winning," but what you, and the other people involved, plan to do next.

11. Remember that nobody is in charge of your happiness except you.

While some work environments are inherently difficult, if you're consistently
miserable it's your fault. You owe it to yourself and your coworkers to
either find a job that makes you happy or make the best of the job
you've got.

12. Smile and laugh more frequently.

Contrary to popular belief, smiling and laughter are not the RESULT
of being happy; they're part of a cycle that both creates and reinforces
happiness. Find reasons to smile.  Never, ever suppress a laugh.

13. Don't waste precious energy on malice and gossip.

Before you tell a story about anybody else, or listen to such a
story, ask yourself four questions: 1) Is it true? 2) Is it kind? 3) Is
it necessary? and 4) Would I want somebody telling a similar story about
me?

14. Don't worry what others think about you; it's none of your business.

You can't mind read and you don't have everyone else wired into a lie
detector. Truly, you really have NO IDEA what anyone is REALLY thinking
about you. It's a total waste of time and energy to try.

15. Remember that however bad (or good) a situation is, it will inevitably change.

The nature of the physical universe is change. Nothing remains the
same; everything is, as the gurus say, transitory. Whether you're
celebrating or mourning or something in between, this, too, will pass.

16. Trash everything in your work area that isn't useful or beautiful.

Think about it: you're going to spend about a third of your waking
adult life at work. Why would you want to fill your work
environment–and that part of your life–with objects that are useless
and ugly?

17. Believe that the best is yet to come, no matter what.

When my grandmother was widowed in her 70s, she went back to college,
traveled across Europe in youth hostels, and learned Japanese painting,
among many other activities. The last thing she told me was: "You know,
Geoffers, life begins at 90."

READERS: What additional rules should be on this list?  (Leave a comment!)